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The following heart-warming letter came from Chad Parks on 2/17/05. The bold face are my comments written also on 2/17/05.
Just to show Chad's "original thinking capacity" he basically copied my farewell letter to my sister, sullied it up with half-truths
and nastiness and then sent it to me.
Anthony,
This is Chad writing you and not Kathie, just to be
sure. I would like to express my personal and deepest
gratitude to you for being the better man and listing
your feelings which I am sure have been boiling in you
for years.
Well, I have made them known up front. Unlike yourself. Hypocrite? I think that sums it up for you.
You have no idea what a relief this is for
me. At last, I no longer have to pretend I like you
or that I even have one iota of respect for you.
Don't worry. The facade was never very good. It has always been painfully obvious that you did not like me. The shame
is that you have never been adult enough to say so.
I am generally not two-faced hard to believe since it shows so often and so many people pick up on it but I assure
you that in your company I did my best to be. Again, terribly mature...and he's raising kids. Scary!But apparently
you, in your infinite wisdom, were able to see right through my facade. Well good for you, you do have one skill after all!
I tolerated being in your presence to avoid making the
rest of your family uncomfortable.
Uh, no. You avoided being around. And had your wife lie to cover your cowardace. Let's see, you were violently ill and
had terrible diherhea...interestingly you were fine enough to go to dinner and leave again.
You see, Anthony, the whole purpose of manners is to make others around you feel comfortable, but you surely did not know
this before now. The truth of the matter is that I have utterly despised you since the day we first met.
Being in the same room as you literally filled me with
a gut wrenching flu like urge to throw up. But again,
I smiled, and waved off my feelings in respect to the
rest of your so called estranged family.
The only one who has been estranged is your wife. I think skipping a wedding and then pretending like everything is fine
(as she did) warrants us avoiding her like the plague. Again, at least I have been up front about it all this time. I guess
manners is to be 2-faced, have others lie for you, etc.
In all reality Anthony, I really couldn't care less
about you or your melodramatic email letter or even
what you think of me, my family or your own family for
that matter. I just happen to have some time right
now and will gladly indulge your adolescent
viewpoints. Two thoughts here. First, time right now is 5PM...did I miss where letters like this is considered quality
time with the kids? Second, there is that trademark Parks tolerance of other's feeling and thoughts. Tara, however,
I think she is wonderful
lady. And you have done so wonderfully in showing that by...ignoring her. Must be a Parks thing.
You should consider yourself lucky. See, there
is a valuable lesson for you here; it just goes to
show you that the Sun really does shine on a dog's ass
every now and then.
You mention how I talked down to you when you took my
kids from Kathie’s graduation. Well, now you now why.
There is no way in hell I could trust you with my
kids. And as for Kathie’s graduation, I don’t know you managed to make it about you, but you did. Yet
another skill you seemed to have mastered.
Uh, what is this supposed to mean?. Keep in mind that the "wonderful lady" Tara and the "loving mother" Esther were among
the people that watched your kids while you and your wife disappeared...had NO CLUE where they were. While you are able to
treat family so poorly as to lie, be "2-faced", and flat out ignore their presence (like you did with your loved kids that
night), we were not willing to risk their abduction. Chapter 1 in Good Parks Parenting: ignore the children. Chapter 2:
spend income on super soaker water toys instead of providing a roof over your family's head while living with in-laws.
Since you have so kindly provided us with a list of
grievances, I would like to provide you with some of
my personal observations as well. Rest assured
though, I am growing bored of this and you already and
will make it very brief:
-Contrary to your belief, you are not the center of
the universe. Never said I was. I only gave examples of why I do not want communication with your family. You sure seemed
a little reactionary, though, for not really caring. It is like I said...I built half of the bridge and your wife never built
the other half. I'm only letting you know that the bridge has collapsed. Based on the literacy of your letter I can understand
how such a deep concept evades you.
-Yes, you do manage to somehow offend just about
everybody in the same room as you.Were you answering a question I asked? Missed that. Though it was not a topic I will
address it anyway: You may be right...and I do not care. You simply cannot please everyone, I do not try to please 2-faced
liars who are poor parents.
-You have a good family and are too stupid to realize
it.I know I have a good family. My sister and her husband are not good people, however. I have a good mother, father,
step-mother, step-father, brother, aunt, cousins and uncle. On my wife's side...I can safely say they are all good.
-You have a very loving mother who can be easily
manipulated by you into adopting your egocentric and
twisted viewpoints. You also have the ability to
convince her that you are a victim of a family that
hates you. Let me assure you that all you are a
victim of is yourself.Wow...funny how you think I'm convincing her of anything. Conversations about the abcesses of the
Yniguez-Parra family (you and your wife) are not started by me. So that means that the convincing is done prior to my input.
Wow...is that possible? Must be a Jedi mind trick. It seems linear thinking is an issue for you...as it is with most grunts
of humanity.
Here is where we get to the creative writing portion of Chad's letter.
Do you really think I could have any type of
legitimate respect for you when:
But first, a little linear observation...at the beginning of this literary work you wrote: "The truth of the matter
is that I have utterly despised you since the day we first met" while your justification for such contempt occurred nearly
a decade after "the day we first met." I'm sorry...I did not mean to let facts get in the way of a good fable. Please
continue.
-Knowing my son’s passion for soccer you bash the
sport in front of him in an ill attempt to make him
feel bad. I am certain that for you trying to
demoralize a 10 year old boy of his passion is very
rewarding. It is just the type of pompous prick that
you are.
1. The conversation during which your son was awake actually went like this. I mentioned a debate case based on the observation
that people generally like either baseball or soccer and dislike strongly the other. Your wife and my grandmother proceeded
to demean baseball (a sport that I am passionate about, hence the debate case). I provided the points of each case. Your
wife continued on about on in an aggressive manner about soccer and demeaning those who play baseball (which I did). I adjust
my conversation to the tone to that of the other person engaged in the discussion and responded with equal aggression.
2. The other conversation that did not start out as an innocuous discussion occurred while your son was asleep...and you were
not even there.
-You argue in favor of legalizing drinking and
driving unless the drunk driver actually manages to
hurt or kill someone at which time it should then be
declared illegal. This following Kathie’s near death
accident as a result of a drunk driver. Are you
really that stupid? Or just spiteful? Probably both
huh?
Kathie is not the only one in the world to have an accident as a result of a drunk driver. I, too, have been in an accident
as the result of a drunk driver. With that in mind let me set the story striaght...I neither started that discussion nor
simply blurted out my belief. I did give warning that "it is not a popular opinion" and initially did indeed say that I should
not bring it up, knowing how my sister is unable to accept the opinions of others. You would not know that because YOU WERE
NOT THERE.
Some people who were in that discussion realize (and were discussing) the philosophical reasoning behind my belief. I
guess your wife was not able to understand that nor relay it correctly to you.
-In front of everybody at the dinner table you manage
to have the balls to disrespect your Oma and embarrass
yourself and your parents by flipping her the bird.
Would this be when we were showing each other the creative ways people flip the bird? Good Lord, you are certianly an
expert at omitting pertinent information to slander someone.I think Opa displayed great restraint in not kicking your
ass right there. That would have been interesting since he was commenting on them. In hind sight I wish I would have.
I wish you would have tried too.Anthony you really are an ASSHOLE in every
sense. If I didn’t know better I would assume that
your parents abandoned you during infancy and that you
were grew up with no sense of tact or class. But I
know better. The fact is, your parents did try to
teach tact and class, but you were too stupid to
recognize it as being important.
This effort at describing my lack of class coming from an admitted 2-faced liar. And as for class and tact...let's count
the insults. *sigh*
I urge you to seek another position in politics
Anthony; you really have what it takes. Yes, conviction, thoughtfulness, communication skills, and so on. You single
handedly managed to generate negative politics
again, you missed the main point of my letter. Things have not been right since your wife jumped into a discussion which
was none of her business, insutled me, ignored familial bonds and then cries in her milk about how she has been wronged for
so long while treating family like shit. And somehow I created the bad blood? Interesting how your thought process
goes.
and build alliances in the single place it does not
belong; your own family.
Alliances? What the hell are you talking about? I'm 1/2 way across the country and get to hear regularly about
how you & your wife ignore your mother-in-law. I am severing an unhealthy facade of a relationship that I did not want anyway...and
I am creating
alliances? Again, I'm baffled by your logic.
Well Anthony I bid you farewell.Good. I really hope our paths never cross. I don't think there is that danger
since the feeling has long been mutual. And please do not waste your time in formulating a clever response, sorry,
I could not let character assassination go unanswered because much like
the thoughtful gifts you have sent in the past (1)They were off of your wish lists, which was the only correspondence your
family engaged in...materialistic! (2) Uh, like I said, I did not want the relationship...the gifts you sarcastically ridicule
were from my wonderful wife, to quote you...or were you being fecitious? Never can tell with 2-faced people.,
and so cleverly managed to use as leverage,
again...what the hell are you talking about? Me expecting people to
thank others for gifts is leverage? Damn, I really am perplexed by your thinking processes.
your correspondences
will not be read and will be promptly placed in the trash where it belongs.
As have everything you and your wife have sent...I did not want the relationship.
With the utmost sincerity,
Chad
PS.
Please, I beg you to indulge me with one final
request, for your own sake: Don’t let anyone ever
tell you a lie about how you are a good person? Try
to be a real man, stand up, and affirm the truth by
telling them that you are not. Again, advice about honesty from someone who is an admitted 2-faced liar that assassinates
characters for their own angst. Advice heard, but given all the respect it is due...none.
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